Introduction
Cats are independent creatures, but there are times when you’ll need to lift them—whether for grooming, veterinary visits, or simple affection. However, picking up cats the wrong way can lead to stress, discomfort, or even injury for both you and your feline friend.
In this comprehensive guide, we’ll break down:
- The safest way to pick up a cat
- Mistakes to avoid when picking up cats
- Whether it’s ok to pick up cats by the scruff
- How to build trust so your cat feels comfortable being held
Let’s explore how to pick up your cat the right way.
Is It Okay to Pick Up Cats by the Scruff?
You might have heard that mother cats carry their kittens by the scruff (the loose skin at the back of their neck). While this is true for very young kittens, scruffing is not an appropriate way to lift or hold adult cats.
Why You Should Avoid Scruffing Adult Cats
❌ No Natural Scruff Reflex in Adults – The “kitten reflex” that causes young cats to go limp when scruffed disappears as they grow older.
❌ Causes Discomfort & Stress – Being grabbed by the scruff can make a cat feel vulnerable, triggering fear or defensive reactions.
❌ Lack of Support – Unlike a mother cat, human hands can’t properly carry a cat by the scruff without causing strain.
👉 Scruffing should only be used in extreme cases, such as medical procedures or emergencies, and only when necessary.
Instead, let’s go over how to pick up your cat safely and comfortably.
How to Pick Up a Cat Properly
Step 1: Read Your Cat’s Body Language
Before attempting to lift your cat, check for signs of comfort or distress:
✅ Signs Your Cat Is Comfortable Being Picked Up:
- Relaxed body posture
- Purring or slow blinking
- Approaching you voluntarily
🚫 Signs Your Cat Does NOT Want to Be Picked Up:
- Flattened ears, tail flicking
- Hissing or growling
- Trying to escape or swatting
👉 If your cat is displaying discomfort, give it time to calm down before attempting to lift it.
Step 2: Approach Calmly & Confidently
- Move slowly to avoid startling your cat.
- Speak in a soft, reassuring tone.
- If your cat is lying down, encourage it to stand before picking it up.
Step 3: Support the Chest and Hindquarters
1️⃣ Place one hand under the chest – Position your hand just behind the front legs.
2️⃣ Use the other hand to support the hind legs – Lift gently while keeping the body level.
3️⃣ Hold the cat close to your body – This makes your cat feel secure and reduces squirming.
👉 Avoid grabbing only the front legs, as this can cause discomfort or injury.
Step 4: Hold Your Cat Comfortably
Once lifted, you can hold your cat in different ways depending on its personality:
🛑 DO NOT
- Hold the cat only by its front legs.
- Carry it in an unsupported dangling position.
- Hold it too tightly or restrict movement.
✅ Recommended Holding Positions:
🔹 The Classic Hold – Hold your cat close to your chest with its paws resting on your arm. This is ideal for most cats.
🔹 The Cradle Hold – Support your cat like a baby, with its back in your arm. Some cats enjoy this, but others may feel vulnerable.
🔹 The Shoulder Perch – Some affectionate cats like resting on their owner’s shoulder. This requires trust and should be done carefully.
Step 5: Gently Put Your Cat Down
1️⃣ Lower your cat close to the ground.
2️⃣ Let its paws touch the surface first.
3️⃣ Release gently, allowing the cat to step away naturally.
How to Pick Up a Cat That Doesn’t Like Being Held
Some cats dislike being picked up, but with patience, you can help them feel more comfortable.
🟢 Tips for Helping a Cat Get Used to Being Picked Up:
- Start with short holding sessions – Lift your cat for a few seconds and then set it down.
- Use treats and positive reinforcement – Reward calm behavior.
- Respect their boundaries – If your cat resists, try again later instead of forcing them.
- Associate being picked up with positive experiences – Hold your cat before mealtime or playtime so it sees lifting as part of a routine.
When Should You Avoid Picking Up Your Cat?
There are times when picking up cats should be avoided:
🚫 During Playtime – Your cat may be too energetic and struggle.
🚫 When They’re Eating or Using the Litter Box – Interrupting these activities can cause stress.
🚫 If They Are Sick or Injured – Handle with caution and seek veterinary advice.
Common Myths About Picking Up Cats
🔍 Myth #1: “All Cats Like Being Held”
✅ Reality: Some cats enjoy being held, while others prefer to stay on the ground.
🔍 Myth #2: “Scruffing is the Best Way to Pick Up a Cat”
✅ Reality: Scruffing is only appropriate for kittens and emergency situations.
🔍 Myth #3: “Cats Will Get Used to Being Held If You Force Them”
✅ Reality: Forcing a cat to be held can create negative associations and fear.
Final Thoughts: The Best Way to Pick Up a Cat
Learning how to pick up your cat correctly ensures both safety and comfort. Always approach calmly, provide proper support, and respect your cat’s preferences.
If your cat dislikes being lifted, work on trust-building exercises and positive reinforcement. And remember—scruffing is NOT the proper way to pick up a cat in most situations.
By handling your cat with care, you’ll strengthen your bond and create a stress-free experience for both of you.
Want more cat care tips? Let me know what you’d like to learn next! 🐱💙
